When You’re Dating A Married Man
Most of us are horrified if we find out that someone we know is dating a married man. There is a lot of stigma attached to dating a married man. Friends and family will not agree with your decision to do so which may make you feel very alone. For some religious people, this is not only a terrible thing to do, but it’s a cardinal sin. It’s hard for many of us to support any friend involved in this type of relationship.
Dating a married man is no picnic. You’ll probably have to sneak around as you’re dating so that nobody else finds out. This may seem fine at first but as the relationship progresses you might start to feel stifled. Your man may only be able to call you when he’s able to sneak away from his wife and kids. You may find yourself alone more times than you’d like cause like it or not, his family will come first. Are you prepared to be last on the list?
The biggest problem that you will face is the emotional factors? This relationship will affect everybody. Whether they find out or not, your man has a wife and may have kids. What will happen if the wife and kids find out? The wife might be so upset she files for divorce. But what about the kids? It’s so hard for kids to understand these things. The tremendous guilt you will feel will be hard to shake.
Picture yourself as a young child and having your family torn apart by a stranger. I’m sure you wouldn’t have liked that to happen. You also have to consider the moral character of the person you’re involved with. If they are doing this to their wife, what’s to stop them from cheating on you? He might use the excuse that his marriage went south to justify his relationship with you. However, he could always get counseling or a separation before proceeding with any other person.
One thing to consider is what’s the point of the whole relationship? Will he ever leave his wife permanently or does he want to have his cake and eat it too? If you happen to be dating a married man, what are his intentions? Many women in this situation find that they are being strung along by their man.
Most married men don’t want to go through the expense and stress of leaving their wife and family. This will eventually make you feel not worthy enough. You have to think about your own goals and what you want your future to look like. Do you want to get married some day? Will you want to have children of your own? If the answer to both of these questions is yes, than you need to break off this relationship.
There really is no positive point to dating a married man. If you find yourself facing this decision in your life, I would advice against it. There are plenty of single people out there that you can find to date. You’ll never forgive yourself for ruining other people’s lives. Even if the wife and kids never find out, you know what you’re doing. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you won’t feel any guilt.